Life Skills
What is Life Skills?
Life Skills is a Bible based program to help with all relationships including with the Lord, our partners, our children, people in the workplace and even ourselves. The first 9 chapters of the program are about recognizing personal behaviors and anger issues . We give tools for awareness and behavior modification. The next 10 chapters are about understanding the "why" and the "where did it come from?" Discovering how I acquired my belief system and expectations. The last 6 chapters are about educating what "healthy" looks like and setting new goals. If it was never modeled, we never knew anything different. The common statements we hear in the class are "why wasn't this taught in school before we got married or I had children."
What motivated Jim and Carol Voyiatzes to facilitate Life Skills?
Jim and I have been married for 45 years. Due to our very dysfunctional families, most of those years were very unhappy. After excepting the Lord as our Savior in 1973 divorce was no longer option. We tried every seminar on marriage, retreats that taught about improving relationships, read everything we could get our hands on, prayed, prayed and prayed. Jim even taught a Bible study at our Church based on information from a popular Christian author. We still struggled with communication, trust, and just not knowing how to have a healthy relationship. Life Skills gave us the tools to help our communication, and understanding about Love and Intimacy - emotional connection. Jim and I still struggle but we now have the tools to help solve differences instead of continuing unhealthy behaviors. When you are not focused on your struggling relationship with your spouse, or others it is so much easier to grow in your relationship with the Lord.
Upcoming Classes:
Life Skills Classes for Men and Women
Phase 1 Life Skills Classes Start in Roseville:
We are excited to announce that Phase 1 classes in Roseville will start in September.Classes for women will start Tuesday, September 21st facilitated by Eleanor McCampbell.Classes for men will start Sunday, September 26thfacilitated by Chris Anderson.
All classes will be at Warehouse Christian Church, 9089 Foothills Blvd., Suite 900, Roseville.Take Hwy. 65 turn South on Blue Oaks and left on Foothills Blvd. Classes will be from 6pm to 9pm.
The fees are on a sliding scale according to your income. The minimum is $25 a class if you make $20,000 a year or less. Then if you make $20k-$30k it is $30 a class; between $30k-$40k it is $40 a class and maxis out at $60. There are 28 classes. There is also a one-time non refundable administration fee of $55 that you pay the first night.
Classes fill up quickly so if you would like to register for Phase 1 classes in Roseville please callCarol Voyiatzes, 916-663-0330, cell 916-768-9945 or email to
Phase 2 Life Skills (Family Life Skills Center):
"Learning to Live, Learning to Love"
- Is for those who have graduated from Phase 1 (Must have a "Certificate of Completion")
- Phase 2 consists of 15 different Modules.
- Each Module runs from 4 to 10 weeks depending upon the topic.
- Class time is 2 hours per week.
- New Phase 1 graduates may join at the beginning of any new Module and rotate through all 15 Modules.
- Separate classes are held for men and women.
- Workbooks are "build as you go." Participants will build their own workbooks from class handouts and assignments. "Tools at your fingertips."
Cost is based on a sliding scale and materials fees are additional.
Classes are ongoing, for more information or to register call (530) 320-7065
The Goal of Life Skills is to Help each individual increase their capacity to function in relationships, and to offer Hope of reconciliation.
Phase 1 teaches you the process, Phase 2 helps you put it into practice.
Phase 2 helps you apply the truths learned in Phase 1 to your everyday life.
Family Life skills Center
Auburn, CA 95603
Sheron Ohai, Executive Director (530) 320-7065
Carol Voyiatzes, Site director, (916) 768-9945 or (916) 663-0330
Phase 2 Curriculum Overview
Modules:
#1 Abilities Which Empower
(4 weeks) (9/20/10)
- Intervening in your own internal abuse
- Taking a stand
- Establishing and respecting boundaries
- Recognizing and appreciating survival strategies
#2 Denial or Defense Mechanisms
(5 weeks) (11/1/10)
- Defenses are used to protect self from internal and external stressors
- Discover the ones you use
- Coming out of Defense and Denial
- Learning to love self appropriately
#3 Rejection (4 weeks) (1/10/11)
- Why and how we react to rejection
- What it looks like in relationships
- The need to forgive
- Healing from rejections
#4 Thinking/Feeling/Behaving
(4 weeks) (2/28/11)
- Addictive thinking…what it looks like
- Belief Systems – how they affect our behavior
- How thinking affects interpretation
#5 Pleasers and Controllers
(8 weeks) (5/2/11)
- Controlling vs. Pleasing
- Characteristics of “Pleasers”
- Who controls whom and how does it feel
#6 Codependency (6 weeks) (9/19/11)
- Addictions and codependency
- Rules that codependents live by
- The troubled family and its roles
#7 Codependency in Families
(4 weeks) (11/14/11)
- Discover your role in the codependent family system and find the way out!
- Rescuing vs Helping
#8 Addictive Love (4 weeks) (1/9/12)
- Recognize addicted love
- How to detach appropriately
- Stopping the addicted love cycle
- What mature love looks like
- What love does and what love doesn’t
#9 Sexual Abuse (4 weeks+) (2/27/12)
- What constitutes sexual abuse
- Understanding the survivor
- Sexual abuses in childhood and the reactions in your adult life and relationships
#10 Healing of Memories & Trauma
(10 weeks) (4/2/12)
- Break generational sin patterns
- Pinpointing childhood wounds/ trauma
- Healing the stages of life trauma – stage by stage resolution
#11 Again We Look at Shame/Anger
(8 weeks) (10/1/12)
- Shame bound families
- Roots of our shame
- The cycle of our shame
- Victory over shame
- Anger and its connection to shame
- What anger is and what it isn’t
- Anger management and resolution
#12 Grieving
#13 Reactive Lifestyles
#14 Anger Review (6 weeks) (1/7/13)
- The role of grieving in the healing process
- What’s still driving you?
- Newly discovered triggers, expectations & Life Commandments
#15 Communication, Resolution
of my Conflicts, Mature Love
(10 weeks) (3/11/13)
- Ensuring accurate communication
- Resolution of conflicts
- Sex, love or infatuation
- Understanding genuine love and how it plays out in relationships
